My husband and I have always traveled frequently and when we adopted my daughter, I was in the process of traveling to do dissertation research in another country for my PhD. I knew we would travel with her a lot, but I was naive enough to think that it would be easy all the time. I flew alone with my daughter when she was just four months old and was pulled aside in security to prove that she was, in fact, my child. With the rise of human trafficking and kidnapping, I get why they did it, but I was in shock at the time, holding a crying baby, and digging through my bag for her birth certificate. Though this hasn’t happened since because we are prepared, we still often get looks when we are traveling, particularly in other countries. Make sure that you’re prepared. No matter the race of your children, all of these tips are helpful as you navigate traveling with a child. 

Have All of your Documents Handy

Though many people don’t, you’re technically supposed to have your child’s birth certificate with you if they are under the age of eighteen. Luckily, I knew this and had my daughter’s birth certificate that first time I flew and though I’m seldom asked for it now, I do keep it in my wallet in a clear plastic holder–it is folded in there and fits in neatly. Make sure to have numerous copies of the birth certificate so you can still keep one safe at home just in case something should happen to the one you have. If you need more guidance this, read more on the TSA’s site. 

Consider a Passport ID card 

If you get your child a passport, you can add on a passport ID card. If you fly a lot with your child, this is invaluable. Since we now show ID only at check in, this has been easier on us because we hand over our driver’s licenses and my daughter’s passport ID. We go right through without having to also show her ticket and have her answer a million questions when she’s tired. It is an extra cost, but again, if you plan to fly a lot, it is worth it! However, if you don’t have it, you’ll have to work with your child because you won’t be able to answer questions for them if they’re older. 

Help your Child Build Confidence in Speaking with Others 

Oftentimes, TSA agents will ask your child for their name, age, and even who they are traveling with. Now is not a good time for shyness or a meltdown. Work with your child on growing their confidence in speaking with others, whether it be starting to order their own food at a restaurant or chatting at the grocery store check out. You may need to tell them that this is really important and not being compliant could cost them their vacation.

Stay Close to Each other

This should go without saying when you are traveling with your child, but as our kids get older, holding hands with mom and dad isn’t “cool.” It doesn’t matter. If they want to travel, they need to stay close to you or hold your hand. Though most people are not going to give you a second glance when you travel, we live in an age where some people have very strong feelings and having your child within arm’s reach is always appropriate, no matter their age. 

If you have more questions about flying with your child, review the TSA’s page.