Category Archives: Birthmothers

How to Recognize Red Flags in an Adoption Agency as a Birth Mother

  Deciding to create an adoption plan can be a very difficult and emotional decision, so you want to ensure that you are working with an adoption agency that has the best interests of both you and your child in mind. As you navigate this process, you will want to know your rights as a… (Read More)

When your Family Doesn’t Support Your Adoption Plan

  When we talk about stigmas surrounding adoption, we tend to think of the past, when people didn’t share that they had adopted and all adoptions were closed. Though this seems like this was how things were handled long ago, it wasn’t in our too distant past that these things happened. Also, unfortunately, stigmas surrounding… (Read More)

How to Navigate Open Adoption

  As a birth parent who is already navigating creating an adoption plan, it can be difficult to know what type of openness you see occurring. This is an important decision and there are adoption professionals willing to help you think this through.    What is an open adoption? There are three levels of openness… (Read More)

Adoption & Trauma

    Discussions of adoption often center on hope, joy, and building families. Though these things are a part of adoption, not all aspects of adoption are celebratory or positive experiences. For birth parents, adoptees, and even adoptive parents, there can be a level of trauma. For many adoptees in particular, this is something that… (Read More)

Why Do Birth Parents Choose Adoption?

  I have done a lot of research about adoption and have had the privilege of speaking to many birth mothers. It is so important to me to learn from others’ lived experiences. Through these conversations, I’ve learned that no birth mother chooses to make an adoption plan for the same reason. In fact, there… (Read More)

Financial Support for Birth Mothers

  When a birth mother is making an adoption plan, there is already some additional stress. If you’re working with adoptive parents and adoption professionals, you may be eligible for additional financial support. Though it’s a difficult time, there are people and places ready to help you.  Should you be working with an adoption professional… (Read More)

As A Birthparent…

  When I talk to individuals about adoption, one of the first things that people ask is about birth parents changing their minds after making an adoption plan. In some instances, birth parents that have chosen adoptive parents, do decide to parent–as is their right. For those seeking to adopt a child, this can be… (Read More)

How To Talk to Your Child About Their Adoption Story

  In the past, adoption was a topic that wasn’t discussed. It’s hard to believe that there were adoptees that didn’t know they were adopted, sometimes their entire life. However, times have changed, for the better. It’s important to be considerate, sensitive, and to share truthful and relevant information to help your child understand their… (Read More)

Adoption and the Holidays

  The holiday season can be an exciting time, but also an emotional one for those that are a part of the adoption triad. Though we are celebrating and spending time with family, there is also a sense of loss that can be felt during the holiday season. There are many things you can do to… (Read More)